Her Gest from my nest...

She was unique- woman with a difference and a substance too..the word fear had no place in her dictionary and she lived by ideals and never succumbed to anything in her life.And all these made her different form other women of her age group.I have never seen her talking or discussing on dressing or attires.Her mind was always filled with inquisitiveness and magnanimity.Above all she was loved and revered across all age group.I have vivid memories of her.Her interests had no boundaries and so also her thoughts.Books,Newspapers,International relations,Music,Scriptures everything occupied a prominent place in her thinking.she observed and analysed all those with great enthusiasm and never missed an opportunity to discuss/debate with people of similar interests.Yes, I am talking about my Mother.

Had she been alive, she would have been the happiest person seeing my blogs and scribbles.Whenever I go to my mom's ancestral place, the neighborhood choirs.."You look like Sulo" ( Wish I could be courageous and knowledgeable as her!)Some others used to tell.."hmmm..Had your mom been alive, she would have been happy seeing the little ones.Its an ill-fate that she didn't get a chance to see her children settled with family".

The maids in our house were treated with utmost love and affection and mom did something ( this something is a broader term.Because her generosity had no bounds) or other for their well being and taught them not only letters or words but also evoked a strong confidence(because she was against drowning in tears) in them..Even after these years of passing, everyone remembers and glorify the way she lived.

Yes, I do remember her deeds...her courageous attitude towards life, to conquer challenges without shedding tears.I donno whether I could be like her..But today being her death anniversary, I remember all the deeds she has left behind..and it remains as a light house..

What I learned is If we continue to remember someone who has left us, it will make us more weak.Whereas if we remember their dreams,desires and their ideals, it could propel us towards a more meaningful destination.

Back to Blah Blah...

Its been pretty long since I babbled anything here.Its not that I have nothing to rant. Like everyone, I too have many things to prattle.My mind hardly works these days ;-)rather my mind has stopped working.So no posts in Workings of Mind :D (ST,I am trying for a PJ.You know whose influence it is!)

But why the blog remains prattle free these days? Oh! Its not any kinda 'block'(The excuse bloggers place very often) Mine is sheer Laziness.Nothing more Nothing less.Let me put it in another way;I lack self motivation.I can make others read and write. But I rarely does the same.

During my vacation in Kerala,I made an attempt to revive my reading 'The Argumentative Indian', 'Deterring Democracy' by Noam Chomskey and 'India after Gandhi' by Guha.As usual,couldn't finish :D For the time being all the three are enjoying their vacation in my book shelf :D

So friends.. I am back! Back to blah blah...

Classes,Courses and Craps!

I was talking to a friend over the phone.Seems she was sending her kid(6 years) to cricket coaching and skating.Though she wanted to pack  off her kid to swimming classes,she couldn't..because the classes  begun already.I was carefully listening(of course with interest and enthusiasm)to her.Then a question popped up from her side.."Are you sending your kid to any classes? My mind muttered in spontaneity..Oh!yes, I'm sending him to attend humanitarian class'!I think that is the need of the hour.

We particularly the Indians, have become obsessed with stuffing the blooming buds with a lot craps..In the race,we are leaving our humanitarian culture in a trash box...We,the elders are miserably failing to read the mind of the children.Without trying to depict their mind,we impose our interest on them,leaving them shattered.Vacations are meant to enjoy the little pleasures and happiness around life.Yes,Of course,we need to pursue other creative ventures too.For everything,there is an appropriate Time&Age.Unfortunately,we ignore the both.

Hereafter if someone 'asks' me about vacation courses and classes..I am gonna give my 'Humanitarian' reply!Howzzz it??;-)

Realities Beyond Three P's

Pub bharo,Pink Chaddi,Pink Condom,Muthalik,Minister…. are the latest happenings in our country.Even a kindergarten kid may be aware of the pub bharo&muthalik&pink chaddi campaigns!No room for the justification of muthalik's Taliban thoughts.After all ,anyone who is above the age of 21,is legally permissable to visit pub.Molesting the girls are more horrendous than the pub culture.It was quite surprsiing to see nation wide 'pink chaddi campaign"...virtual world was enriched with this discussion.In between came our honorable minister's 'slogan' 'Pub Bharo'(Definitely,the UPA must have felt embarassed at minister's statement..they might have thought Minister is a spokesperson of pub owners!)finally things went calm.No chaos or confusions on valentine's day!Group of women leading a campaign,several men joining it later on,the campaigning caught a national level attention(i doubt whether any other movement have caught this much of popularity!)Media,Pub Owners,Muthalik&Minister emerged victorious!!They all received nation wide publicity.A sort of free marketing for alchohol companies!The question remains..who fell into the prey?Undoubtedly our society!Particularly Indian Women!

The enthusiasm taken by the women in pink chaddi campaign,the initiative taken by our honorable minister in pub bharo andolan was “commenable”!But it is disheartening to see that no 'proper measures' are initiated for resolving livelihood issues of women in rural areas.Unfortunate to say that,issues that requires national attention are swept under carpet!Quiet usitative for we,the Indians!But are we aware?Or is there any campaign or andolan to tackle such issues?Society is more bothered about people going to pubs and discos.Minster too much concerned about the urban upper class life style.No doubt about that.If we have had a glance at the few of the basic issues..sure,women would have abstained from such worthless revolution or we would have focussed our attention on realities.

An official study done in 2007 has revealed some shocking information on child abuse,particularly sexual abuse.According to the study, 53.22 per cent children reported having faced some form of sexual abuse. Nearly 22 per cent child respondents reported facing severe forms of sexual abuse and 5.69 per cent reported being sexually assaulted. Children on streets, at work and in institutional care also reported the highest incidence of sexual assault.

The prohibition of manual scavenging Act came into force in 1993.Still there are 13 lakh manual scavengers in our country,out of which more than 90%are women..Activities of manual scavenging are evident in metros as well.Its ironical to see that, in spite of crores of rupees earmarked for the rehabilitation of manual scavengers...these oppressed class continues to depend on foul smell for their livelihood.So the existence of variance is crystal clear.where does the money goes?

Victims of natural calamities sell their kidneys (for livelihood) via brokers..and they are not paid fully for the 'transaction'.Moreover the post surgery health problems has prevented these women from taking other domestic jobs.Many women sell their kidneys to earn a regular income by setting up small busines..but for few others,wedding expenses of their daughters are met by the kidney sales.Whatever the reason ...everything ends up in a disaster..at the cost of women's health!The most shameful part of these kidney episodes are, there is a huge demand for the same from the urban area..and these poor folks are being cheated by offering lucrative rates!

Till today,none of our commission has been able to put a check on the spurt of sex rackets.Victims of the sex rackets are eventually transformed as sex workers(prospective prostitudes!)Very often girls enter their teens with a lot of hopes about their future.Unfortunately all their hopes are nipped in the bud once they are being targeted by the unscrupulous people who runs the racket.Political Police Baron nexus favours the smooth functioning of the rackets.Victims of sex rackets are always treated as accused!

Indian society feels ashamed to talk about prostitudes,scavenging and sex rackets in public..Perhaps,that could be the reason as to why we are helpless to wipe out these malignant activities.Its ironical to see that people don't hesitate to do these shameful acts!Women in our country fight for equality,reservation in parliament...but they forget to bespeak on behalf of the neglected women.Worst part is the discourteous attitude towards the isolated class.

In India, despite its growth, women depend on primary health centres — most of which lack proper facilities — for child birth..THe infant mortality rate during child birth are very high.Lack of proper medical facilities is the root cause for such unfortunate incidents.


Besides these scavenging,sex rackets...there are innumerable issues that affect the existence of a woman..from female foeticide to rape.Thousnads of girls are missing every year.Most of the girls fall into the trap of agents(Both job&pimps)Alas! we take an indifferent direction towards the same.What caught our attention(particularly women) was Pub Bharo&Pink chaddi...and our society ensured their honest support towards such movement!

Various laws has been enacted for the upliftment and security of women from time to time.Lack of proper channels to ensure the effective functioning of those laws and absence of stringent action has lead to the growth in the violence against women.Instead of making a hue and cry over petty issues,it would be worthwhile if women conjointly makes some serious endeavours for the effective functioning of laws for the protection of women.


Why the pink chaddi campaign gathered this much momentum?is it coz its all about educated upper class?or the issue is about the 'right of a woman to go to pub'?or is it due to the campaign sprouted in metros and urabn areas?or that we are left with no other issues to deal?

Pink chaddi campaign has proved that urban women enjoys considerable amount of freedom and voice to make their choices.Yes,educated urban women can tread a path for a change.Powerful voice,freedom and inclination of women ,if channelised properly ,can mitigate many of the adversities of neglected class.Besides mitigating,such powerful voice can illuminate the lives of millions of women suffering in our country.The collective and constructive thoughts if shuffled properly,can bring a difference not only in the life of rural women,but also can create a significant change in the development of our society.

Lets make a sensible choice!Pub Bharo or Protect Women?

Look At The Board!!

Couple of days back,my kindergarten kid was playing with his small board and a marker.At home,he always wants to take teacher's seat!A harassed mother i'am!..don't have any other option!I obey his orders..else the outcome will be a long face and frowny eyes with full of anger!

Suddenly he said"Look at the board"..At first i didn't heed to his instruction.Then came the second call! STUDENTS...Look at the board I SAY! An unnecessary punch on Students &I say(instead of look at the board!)I asked him...who taught you to say 'Students'? Within a fraction of second,came his innocent reply.."At school my teacher tell like this only"

Again i asked..Tell me Baby,.."whether your teacher addresses you and your classmates as Students or children?
Without any hesitation,he answered 'My teacher calls us Students and not Children"

I pondered..why these blooming buds are treated and addressed as students?why can't the teachers impart the language of Love and affection?Is it possible for the elders to put an end to their rusty narrow thoughts?